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Advice Archives: Number 31
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The request
My best friend and I have been friends for about 6 months. He recently got dumped and is taking it very hard. In fact he has turned to drugs and alcohol for support rather than his friends. I had fallen in love with him a long time ago and just recently got up the nerve to tell him. I know he doesn't really feel the same way and I respect that, but he is using me and bringing me down.
I have been having troubles with depression because of him and I've talked to him about everything and all he can say is I'm sorry. I don't know what to do anymore because he's hurting me but I keep coming back. What should I do?
Aalize replies
Y'all kill me with this silly shyt. You know he doesn't feel the same way, but you keep coming back. Why girlfriend, why? He is not using you, you're using yourself. The man has flat out told you that he isn't interested. You KNOW he doesn't feel you, yet you act like you just don't get it.
Your "depression" has nothing to do with him. It's all about you. I ain't gonna play games with your ass, ya heard? Get a grip, get some business and get over yourself.
The request
Well me and my girl have been going together for four years. We have a one year old daughter together. This past year I went to Japan for a year in the military. While over there me and her broke up because I said I wasn't ready to get married. She said I started sounding suspicious on the phone but all along I wasn't doing anything wrong. Right before it was time for me to come back home, she told me she slept with her ex-boyfriend and she regrets it and wants me and her to get back together. What should I do? In a way I find myself forgiving here because she's always been honest. So what should I do? !
Aalize replies
Point blank; you can't turn a 'ho into a housewife. Let it marinate, and proceed with caution.
The request
Recently, my girlfriend of two years has decided to call it quits on our relationship. She had recently started a singing career and that is when all of the trouble started. When I asked to see her a repeated number of times she always said she was busy and that she had to go and rehearse. I was not against her new singing career but I just wanted her to make a little time for me. She says that she still loves me but she decided that this was not working out. I believe in my heart that we were meant to be together. What should I do ?
Aalize replies
You should get yourself some business, potna. Is there something wrong with your hearing? She said it's NOT working out. You just can't stand rejection can you? You believe in your heart that the two of you were meant to be together. Awwww, that's so cute. Kids believe in Santa Claus too. Pull yourself together soldier! It's over, move on ... you're dismissed.
Aalize replies
We tell because that's what we do. Females gossip, get over it. A man who will break down and cry in front of a female may be sensitive, but strong? Stop playing. I suppose ladies should "treat themselves" to a man like you. You know, a man who likes fat "P" on his "D!ck." I'll be sure to tell 'em.
The request
I HAVE BEEN FRIENDS WITH THIS GUY FOR 3 YEARS AND HE HAD A GIRLFRIEND THE WHOLE TIME (WE WERE JUST FRIENDS), NOW WE HAVE HOOKED UP AND I CAN'T STOP WONDERING IF HE IS FAITHFUL TO ME. I HAVEN'T FOUND ANY REASON TO THINK THAT HE HASN'T BUT HE CHEATED ON THIS GIRL THE WHOLE TIME THEY WERE TOGETHER, WHAT MAKE'S ME SO SPECIAL? PLEASE ADVISE ME SOON.
Aalize replies
Nothing makes you so special. Just as he cheated on her with you, (though you say the two of you were just friends) he may be cheating on you with another. What goes around comes around, and you reap what you sow. If you don't know, now you know.
The request
My girlfriend and I had been together for two years, I transferred to a different school and our relationship got sour, so I thought. We broke up, well I broke up with her. Now we want to get back together, but the guy she was seeing while I was not with her does not want to let her go. She tells me to be patient. What should I do?
Aalize replies
You should recognize game when it's all up in your face, and leave the past alone. If we wanted to be together, we'd be together.
The request
I've been together for three years with a man whom I caught cheating on me with his long-time girlfriend (they're together for 9 years now) after we got a baby. I've asked him to finally decide whom he wants to stay with, because I'm fed up with it. He tells her she's the only one, and tells me he's seeing her on a "friendly basis" only.
I know he's lying. He knows I'm trying to keep us together only because of our daughter, because I want her to have a father and grow up in a family, not only with a single mom. He can't or doesn't want to make up his mind. Recently I've met another man, who happens to be married and also has a baby. He says he's happily married, his wife is beautiful (I saw her), yet, he's still cheating on her with me. I know it's not going to last between two of us, and I know it's wrong. Still, my question is: why can't a man be faithful to ONE woman?
Aalize replies
You are a prime example of why the average man chooses not to be faithful to one woman. You know man #1 is cheating on you, yet you are still with him. He can still be a father to his child without being a lover to you. Admit it girlfriend, you like the dyck. Man # 2 has told you that he is happily married, yet there you go again, getting played. Women forgive men again and again and again and again, and wonder why the man isn't faithful. Men aren't faithful because they don't have to be. They KNOW they can tell us anything, so they do just that.
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