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Advice Archives: Number 28
The request
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The request
I have been going out with my boyfriend for about 2 years now, and now all of sudden he has been very weird with me, like he doesn't even like me. I am begging him to do something to me, anything. I dont know what is wrong with him. I dont know if he is:
3. Just masterbates to much I really dont know. But it isnt like I don't do nothing him. I do everything I can do for him. I buy him food, clothes, raidos, etc..... I treat him sooo good and all I really want is sex.
Ok well that is my problem I may sound like a horny girl but it has been 2 months since he has even touched me. All my friends have no idea, so I turned to you guys. I really hope you can help.
Aalize replies
Your boyfriend doesn't have to be gay, attracted to men or a manic masturbator just because he isn't interested in having sex with you. It could be that he simply isn't interested in having sex with you.
His frequent masturbation could be a big indicaor that he is not satisfied during sex with you. What does your buying him food, clothes, radios, etc. have to do with anything?
You mentioned that all you really want is sex. Your boyfriend may want a total relationship which includes sex, or he may be tired of, or bored with you. When you want to know the honest truth about a situation, go to the source. Don't ask your friends. Ask him.
The request
Help, my ex-boyfriend is giving me a hassle. It is because I am now having a serious relationship with his best friend. We all work together, and he is making things really difficult. Shall I confront him about it, get my new boyfriend to hit him or just ignore him?
Aalize replies
Girlfriend, you know he's jealous. I wouldn't be too quick to ignore him, hell, you listen to the news. Inform your new boyfriend that your ex-boyfriend is giving you problems. Perhaps the three of you can talk this thing through.
Don't ignore it because some of us have a very short fuse, and some of us have a fury that even a restraining order can't contain. Be very careful.
The request
I have been seeing a guy 7 yrs my junior. He is 20 and I am 27.
Is this too big of a age difference? He has all the qualities that I am looking for in a man, but he is just so young. What should I do?
Aalize replies
What you should do is call him to make plans for Saturday night. Don't let society dictate who you should date! As long as 20 is the age of majority in your area, go for it! He makes you happy, right? Well then! Don't worry, be happy!
The request
Ok, I like this girl but I think we are very different. I am a quiet person and she is the kind who goes out everynight, partying and stuff. Is there any possibility that we can be together?
Aalize replies
You can try to get together with her, but what would you have in common? Do you plan to start going out everynight? Do you expect her to change her ways especially for you? Did you think about this question before you clicked the submit button?
Aalize replies
You are not wrong. You are not falsely accusing him. The fact of the matter is, you KNOW your boyfriend purchased this pornographic subscription with YOUR debit card. If you don't KNOW this, shame on you. The writing is on the wall.
Just the facts. They have:
Your debit card number (He does know it, sweetie) If, that's I-F, you fall for this one, you're a Class A --- fool.
The request
I'm not sure how to tell my boyfriend that I'm bicurious and want to explore my feelings towards other women. We have been dating over a year and we both are convinced we've found a partner for life. I don't want to ruin that. But this curiosity is something that I really want to satisfy, and maybe make a part of my life. I have a very dear female friend who has expressed a sexual interest in me. I would feel as though I were cheating if I went behind his back, so I want to ask him how he would feel about it. I want to bring up the subject with him in such a way as to let him know it doesn't threaten our relationship. Can you give me some advice on how to discuss this with him?
Aalize replies
We are not both convinced that we've found a partner for life. He is. You, on the otherhand, are interested in having sex with another partner. Male, female ... cheating is cheating.
There really isn't an easy way to tell your mate that you'd like to have sex with another. You're simply going to have to tell him that you're bi-curious, and that you'd like to act on your feelings. Keep in mind that you may lose your boyfriend after this revelation. Then again, he may be interested in joining the two of you in a threesome.
The request
I haven't talked to my "lover" for about a month, do you think I should give him a call to see what's up?
Aalize replies
Nope. If you haven't talked to your lover in approx. a month, you should know what's up.
The request
My ex and I went out for 7 months then we broke up, the reason I'm not sure. All I know is that his friends aren't letting him talk to me. I want him back , but I dont know how to aproach it. Should I even bother?
Aalize replies
Nope. There's no point in wanting to get back together with someone who doesn't want the same thing.
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