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Advice Archives: Number 27
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The request
I'm 26 amd my boyfriend is 27. We've been dating for 4 1/2 months now. He has never told a girl he's loved her and meant it and wants to wait with me to say it until he means it. I told him that I feel I can already say it but won't. I also hold a lot of stuff in like compliments and how I feel because he doesn't share his feelings with me. I sometimes wonder if he likes me or not because he never says anything or compliments me to make me think it.
When I bring this matter up he tells me he is not an open person right away in a relationship and he shouldn't have to keep telling me he likes me, I should already know it because he is with me. I like everything else about him except that he moves very slow feelings wise in the relationship. How long should I give him to start to open up to me? I feel like I have a need that is not being met. When I ask him when he'll be ready to open up he gets mad and says pressuring him will only push him away.
Aalize replies
Pressure busts pipes and nagging gyrlfriends end up alone. Look, you don't know if he's ever told a girl that he loves her or not; you only know what he tells (or doesn't tell) you. 4 ½ months is not a long time. That's another reason we end up brokenhearted and lonely, always moving too damn fast, and wanting too much too soon. You may feel that you love him, and since you love him, he should love you. It doesn't work like that. There isn't a LOVE ME on/off switch . He will love you if and when the feelings occur.
Behavior breeds behavior. If you have reason to compliment him, compliment him. You can make him open up to you just like you can actually buy the Brooklyn Bridge. Enjoy the relationship for what it is and chill out.
The request
Why do guys like to wear boxers during sex? Secondly, why do they always have to wash their di*ks, immediately after they've just pulled out?
Aalize replies
Huh? All guys don't wear boxers during sex. What kind of guys are you seeing? There are all kind of fetishes out there, I ain't mad at ya! Personal hygeine is the reason many guys like to wash their di*ks immediately after sex. Many females like to wash up after sex too. Try it sometimes, you might like it.
Aalize replies
See previous answer or click your heels together three times and say, "I wish it were bigger."
The request
So my questions are this:
1. He just turned twenty do you know if there is still a chance for it to grow?
Aalize replies
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