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Advice Archives: Number 26
The request
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The request
I had a one night stand with my boss recently. I thought it would turn into a real relationship but now its getting out of control! He never takes me out for dates, he just wants quickies in the office, or at his house, we even did it when his wife was home! I guess my question is, how do I get out of this mess without losing my job?!
Aalize replies
*Aalize looking at you and shaking her head* He disrespects his wife. Why in the hell would he respect you? You actually expected a one night stand with a married man to turn into a real relationship? I guess you believe in the tooth fairy too, huh?
Look. Tell him that you're currently involved with someone, and you choose to discontinue this fling. Let him know that it's over. With him being a married man, I doubt he'd be foolish enough to try to fire you because you've come to your senses, but then again, he jus might be.
It took the two of you to begin this "affair," and it'll take the two of you to end it. Depending on your company policy, You may want to take a trip to your friendly Human Resources Consultant to confess the affair. These talks are allegedly confidential, and you will have documentation on file just in case he tries to get real funky with you. If all else fails, you can always inform him that you WILL tell his wife. That statement almost always guarantees that he'll BackDaFu*k up. In the future, leave those married men alone! I hope you learned a lesson from this ordeal, you little...
The request
What does it mean when my fiancée doesn't have sex with me anymore? We used to have sex 2 to 4 times a week now we're having it 1 to 2 times a month. She says she loves me just as much.
Aalize replies
It means that she is having sex with somebody else. She may still love you, but is probably not in love with you. (Don't you just HATE that line?)
The request
My boyfriend and I don't know if we belong together. Neither of us have dated very many people, and I would like to keep seeing him AND date others. Is this a realistic scenario? Mom says I should dump him and find someone else. But I love him too much to just forget him completely. This would be a lot easier if I hated him but I don't. What should I do?
Aalize replies
There isn't anything wrong with dating your current boyfriend and others as long as your current boyfriend agrees. You want to be fair to him, but you also must remain true to yourself. I'd hesitate to say you LOVE him. If you truly LOVE him, you'd only have eyes for him. Since your eyes are wandering, stop wondering ... start dating others.
The request
My friends' husband (hes also my hubbys friend ) tried to kiss me. I pushed him away and asked him to leave... he had stopped by for some gear from my husband. It left me shaking and near tears.. what do I Do? Do I tell my husband...? Do I tell my friend...? He had better not come near me ever again!! I hope to never see his face again... this has left me shaking all day.
Aalize replies
Tell it, tell it tell it! Tell your husband A.S.A.P! Awww girl, you got hit with the double whammy. He's your friends' husband, and your husbands' friend. What a loser. I hate to say this, although your friend may not believe you, tell her anyway.
Don't feel bad, you did nothing wrong. Make sure you and your husband lose the loser as a friend.
The request
I am in a realatioship with a girl that lives about 90 miles from me. Last night we had an arguement because I wouldn't drive to go see her. She got mad and hung up on me, what should I do?
If you'd like to place a call
Aalize replies
That depends. If you actually like her, call her and beg for forgiveness. If you can take her or leave her, just wait it out. She'll call you very soon talking 'bout, "why haven't you called me?"
The request
My girlfriend and I have just started having oral sex, but I can't seem to orgasm. I get an erection and she stimulates me amazingly, but instead of an orgasming, I have a sudden urge to urinate. If I could get any ideas on why this may happen or how to stop it happening I would be forever grateful.
Aalize replies
Try taking a trip to the little boys room BEFORE engaging in the act. If this urge persists, check with your physician because you may have an undiagnosed Urological Problem.
The request
I've been going out with a guy for over a year now, and we love each other dearly but I have a lot of trouble keeping my temper in check. He's very good to me, but he acts like he's still 16 with no worries. He wants me to take care of everything, and so I end up with all this stress and so I get pissed at him all the time. We've discussed it, and he will apologize, get better for a little while, and then he'll start to revert back to his old ways. What should I do? I don't want to leave him, but I also can't live with things as they are.
Aalize replies
You have run out of choices. You can either:
He wants you to take care of everything. Is that fair to you? I think not. He is only doing what you allow him to do. Stop taking his bullsh*t, and he will stop giving it to you. As long as you take it, he'll give it. Put your foot down and make him know you mean business. No more getting pissed, either get it together or leave it alone.
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