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Advice Archives: Number 25
The request
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The request
My boyfriend, xxx has a strict Dad. I am 13, and so is xxx. His Dad won't let xxx date or even talk to girls!! We have been together for a while without his dad being able to find out! Thursday will be our 4 months! I really like being with im but I can't see him over vacations, dances, or weekends! I can't talk to him on the phone! There is our 8th grade formal friday and I want him to go, but I totally understand about his dad.
xxx said he couldn't go, but everyone is saying that he's going to go to his friend's house and sneak there. He almost got caught the last time and I don't want that to happen at all ya know?! He will have to move if his dad finds out about me and him. I want to talk to xxx about him talking to his dad but what do I say????
Aalize replies
Remember, at 13 years of age, you and xxx are still both minors. Believe it or not, his dad is probably just trying to look out for his best interest. Not to say that you and he shouldn't be able to date, but 13 is a critical age. School is VERY, VERY important.
I have a suggestion for you. Inform your mom that you really like xxx. Ask her to speak to xxx's dad for the two of you. xxx's dad may agree to listen to your mom and let the two of you date on a supervised basis. Tell xxx not to sneak to the formal, because sneaking is cheating, and you and I both know cheaters never prosper!
The request
I have been dating my boyfriend for around 1½ years now. He moved to Seattle to spend a quarter at college up there. He has every intention of moving back home in April or May.
I recently found out that he had a fling (I don't know if it was sexual or not) last weekend. Should I confront him about it? Should I break up or give him a chance to explain?
Aalize replies
Not so fast, missy. How did you find out that your boyfriend cheated on you? Don't tell me; a well-meaning friend told you for your own good. Hmmm... or, did she tell you for her own good?
Unfortunately, many well meaning friends, well ... mean to break us up, so that they can get up with our men. Hey, this isn't so in all cases, but many cases. If you are sure that he cheated on you, yes, step to his ass pronto. Hear him out, and follow your heart. If you think he's lying, let his ass go! This is the new millennium, and although you may love him ... if he can't treat you like you need to be treated, leave him alone.
The request
I have just started dating a new guy as of two days and I have no clue what to do for valentine's day...I don't want to skip it but we really don't have a strong relationship yet. HELP!! ?
Aalize replies
Do NOT buy him anything. If the two of you plan to see each other on Valentine's Day, wear a red outfit, some red shoes and red lipstick. If he presents you with a gift, (and I think he will) accept it like a lady, and give him a thank you peck on the cheeks. Tell him Happy Valentine's Day, and present him with one regular sized Hershey's Kiss.
The fastest way to scare a man off is to give too much too soon. After dating only a few days, take things one day at a time, don't stress yourself ... and have fun!
The request
I am a 24 year old female, and have recently become attracted to a guy who is 19. My intentions are good, I do not want to control him or for purely sexual puposes. I have never liked someone younger before, is their something wrong with me?
Aalize replies
Why you child molesting little.... Seriously, there isn't anything wrong with you! There's a 5 year age difference ... AND?! Hey, as long as 18 is the legal age in your area, I say GO FOR IT!!!! Age ain't nothing but a number and attraction aint nothing but a word. Men have been dating younger females for years! Swaaang and do your thaaang!
The request
How does a man tell a woman that he's bi-sexual?
Aalize replies
First of all, let's discuss WHEN a man tells a woman he's bi-sexual --- before they have any sexual contact.
Now, there is nothing to it but to do it. I'd suggest telling her in person, so you can see the expression on her face. Some females are o.k. with bi-sexual men, so it may not be a big deal. Of coures, some females are repulsed by the thought, and she may decide that she doesn't want anything to do with you.
What will be, will be --- and the sooner you tell her, the sooner you'll be able to just be.
The request
I have been trying to talk my girlfriend into having Anal Sex with me for the last several months and she still refuses. Is there something wrong with trying new things? I don't think so but, she does. I told her she should relax and just try it, if it hurts her, we'll stop. I can't seem to talk her into it. Do you have any advice that might help me to at least talk her into trying it?
Aalize replies
Well damn! With a handle like BigSlam, I can imagine why she is hesitant! Seriously, here is some useful information on anal sex. For starters, it puts you at the higest risk of contracting the H.I.V. or A.I.D.S. virus; not to mention syphillis, gonorrea, herpes and veneral warts. Although many couples engage in anal sex, the rectum was not designed for penetration by hard objects.
Don't try to manipulate her. She doesn't want to engage in anal sex, respect her decision. No, there is nothing wrong with trying new things, but how willing would you be if she insisted on trying new things involving you, her and a strap-on?
The request
I fell for this girl the second time I saw her. I had been thinking of her everyday, but after a few weeks I found out that she is in a relationship. But I just can't give her up... help?
Aalize replies
Of course you can't give her up --- she isn't yours! Don't do this to yourself. Focus your attention on another girl, one who is available.
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