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Advice Archives: Number 24
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The request
I am a 24 year old married male who is into women's lingerie and especially panties. I occassionally like to wear silky panties, but mostly just like to masturbate in them. This really turns me on. My fantasy is to wear panties to bed with my wife. The problem is, my wife is pretty regular when it comes to sex, and I'm afraid she would think I was weird if I told her about my panty fetish. She is aware that I like buying panties for her, and is turned on by this. How can I include my wife in my fantasy, or should I?
Aalize replies
Yes, you should include your wife in your fantasy. Speak to your wife about your panty fetish outside of the bedroom. Inform her how much this turns you on. Will she think you're weird? Perhaps, and perhaps not. Your wife may be kinkier than you know, and this may be just the opportunity she need to express herself also.
The request
My guy wanted to screw me last night and I told him no. He told me he would take me home. I fell asleep & the next thing I knew he was on top of me screwing away and he wouldn't stop. I don't know what to do about this. This was the second time he did this to me. What should I do ?
Aalize replies
Your guy raped you. (see definitions below) Rape is a crime. You should report his ass to the authorities, immediately. Woman or no woman --- no means NO! You do NOT owe him anything; sex should be consensual NOT forceful!
He doesn't respect you gyrl, and if you respect you ; you'd leave his sorry ass alone.
First appeared circa 1983 : rape committed by someone known to the victim rape [2] (verb transitive) raped; rap*ing First appeared 14th Century 1 : to seize and take away by force
The request
Well I've just broke up with an absolutely georgeous model, her name was simone and shes 17 and I'm 16. I only went out with her for 5 months but we had a very intense and close relationship in which we had sex. We broke up because she likes her freedom and her mum stopped her from seeing me for some reason (I'm not a monster or anything I treated her like a princess; she treated me like a doormat.) I don't love her any more and have found someone else who I really like but I am not rushing into any heavy relationship. I've been permenently depressed since I broke up with her and keep hearing about her going out clubbing and going off with other men. Should it hurt? What can I do to stop the pain? I feel like killing myself as shes making my life hell. I don't care what she does with her life but she dosen't have to affect mine. Personally I think she is a slapper if she needs to go off with loads of different blokes every week, but why can't she leave me alone and let me get on with and enjoy my life?
Aalize replies
Unless I'm reading your e-mail incorrectly (which I don't think is possible) she has left you alone! Isn't she seeing other young men? Doesn't she go out and enjoy herself?
Get the hell out of your depressed state; it isn't doing you any good! You feel like killing yourself because she is making your life a living hell, huh? No, YOU are making your life a living hell! Don't even try it.
If you've actually found someone else --- act like it! Spend time with her, think about her, have fun with her! Don't be writing me trying to get sympathy --- get on with your life, because it's more than obvious that your ex-girlfriend has gotten on with hers.
The request
I am a 24 year old female, and have recently become attracted to a guy who is 19. My intentions are good, I do not want to control him or for purely sexual puposes. I have never liked someone younger before, is their something wrong with me?
Aalize replies
Why you child molesting little.... Seriously, there isn't anything wrong with you! There's a 5 year age difference ... AND?! Hey, as long as 18 is the legal age in your area, I say GO FOR IT!!!! Age ain't nothing but a number and attraction aint nothing but a word. Men have been dating younger females for years! Swaaang and do your thaaang!
The request
How does a man tell a woman that he's bi-sexual?
Aalize replies
First of all, let's discuss WHEN a man tells a woman he's bi-sexual --- before they have any sexual contact.
Now, there is nothing to it but to do it. I'd suggest telling her in person, so you can see the expression on her face. Some females are o.k. with bi-sexual men, so it may not be a big deal. Of coures, some females are repulsed by the thought, and she may decide that she doesn't want anything to do with you.
What will be, will be --- and the sooner you tell her, the sooner you'll be able to just be.
The request
I have been trying to talk my girlfriend into having Anal Sex with me for the last several months and she still refuses. Is there something wrong with trying new things? I don't think so but, she does. I told her she should relax and just try it, if it hurts her, we'll stop. I can't seem to talk her into it. Do you have any advice that might help me to at least talk her into trying it?
Aalize replies
Well damn! With a handle like BigSlam, I can imagine why she is hesitant! Seriously, here is some useful information on anal sex. For starters, it puts you at the higest risk of contracting the H.I.V. or A.I.D.S. virus; not to mention syphillis, gonorrea, herpes and veneral warts. Although many couples engage in anal sex, the rectum was not designed for penetration by hard objects.
Don't try to manipulate her. She doesn't want to engage in anal sex, respect her decision. No, there is nothing wrong with trying new things, but how willing would you be if she insisted on trying new things involving you, her and a strap-on?
The request
I fell for this girl the second time I saw her. I had been thinking of her everyday, but after a few weeks I found out that she is in a relationship. But I just can't give her up... help?
Aalize replies
Of course you can't give her up --- she isn't yours! Don't do this to yourself. Focus your attention on another girl, one who is available.
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